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three minute breathing space by the sea – #mindfulness

Take three minutes out of clock time. Perhaps you are stuck indoors behind a desk. This is a three minute video of the sea, waves gently lapping at the beach.

Come to your senses. Let the waves and the sounds come to you. Notice your breathing, is it rhythmic like the waves? Is it fast and shallow or slow and deep like the waves?

Let the colours come to you. Notice when the clouds come over, or when the sun comes breaking through. Can you hear quieter sounds in the background.

If your mind wanders, notice what it wanders too and bring it back to the waves.

Feel the sand beneath your feet and the coolness of the water. Salt drying on your face and the cool wind and warm sun…

Notice any longings to walk on the beach barefoot, to paddle in the sea. To gaze out at the horizon in open awareness, breathing in freedom. Is there a sense of gratitude and thanksgiving for the gift of your senses…

Did you notice the light flooding in at the end? May it be a picture of wellbeing flooding into you.

Let go of whatever is troubling you. Come back to the task in hand refreshed. As the paddle boarder appears at the end, so it is time for you to journey on to your next task.

#mindfulness- instead of being held by the experience you are holding the experience #MHAW15

Jon Kabat-Zinn the American Doctor who pioneered the use of mindfulness in Western medicine talks about an ‘orthogonal rotation in consciousness’ when we practice mindfulness. There is a shift in perspective.
It can be described in different ways. I see it as a shift from thinking to awareness, from being a victim of our thoughts and feelings, to an intimate witness of them. Others have talked about no longer being on a train of thought, but looking at the train of thought from a hillside.
Now in a very important and technical phrase Mark Williams defines what attentional training (mindfulness meditations or mindful awareness practices) is doing, ‘Attentional training in mindfulness programs cultivate the ability to shift modes as an essential first step to being able to hold all experience (sensory and conceptual) in a wider awareness that is itself neither merely sensory nor conceptual.’
This is a shift from doing to being, from the narrative self (conceptual mode) to the experiential self (sensory-perceptual mode), followed by an ability to hold both in an open wider awareness. Instead of being held by the experience you are holding the experience.
In this attached video I have a little visual illustration of this rotation. It is a video of two hour-glasses, egg-timers, whatever you want to call them. In the traditional one on the left the sand rushes down through the narrow gap until it is all gone.
That is a picture of our self following our thoughts, which is what we normally do, down into a, narrow, negative, automatic reactive place – where we are a victim of our thoughts.
The one on the right shows the red particles rising upwards, it is a clever alternative. It can also be seen as an image of what happens when we have this rotation in consciousness. When we shift to awareness, it is as if the thoughts rise into that awareness enabling us to observe them, and in that intimate observation we can chose a skilled response. We are no longer in our self, rushing down with our thoughts into that negative, automatic place of reaction. We are holding the experience rather than being held by the experience.
I’d be interested to hear if you find the visual illustration of this shift in perspective helpful?

Mindfulness short: myth – in mindfulness meditation we are trying to empty our mind

One of the biggest myths about mindfulness is that in mindfulness meditation you are trying to empty your mind. Ruby Wax who is good at answering questions people are asking answers the question this way in her book Sane New World, ‘With mindfulness the rumour is wrong that the point is to empty your mind; you need your mind to analyse, memorize, create and most importantly exist. It can never be empty while you’re alive, even in a coma your mind is still chattering away.’[1]

Why can she say this so categorically? It is all to do with what we think the mind is and how we define it. Interpersonal neurobiologist Daniel J. Siegel points out there is a lack of awareness and understanding of the mind. He defines the mind to be ‘a process that regulates the flow of energy and information.’[2] The mind is always receiving information from a great many sources. This includes sources outside of our own self and body. So it isn’t possible to empty it.

Whilst not directly addressing the question of ‘am I trying to empty my mind in mindfulness meditation?’, Mark Williams looks at mindfulness and psychological processes. He says there are two modes in which the mind operates (sometimes called being and doing), but more technically ‘conceptual (language-based) processing versus sensory-perceptual processing.’[3] Again, that’s a lot of information coming into your mind from different sources.

He goes on to say ‘In every waking moment we are receiving sights, sounds, tastes, smells, touch: stimuli from the external and internal world, but these are generally ignored in favour of spending most of our attention in conceptual mode: thinking, planning, daydreaming, analysing, remembering, comparing, judging, analysing, and so forth.’[4]

Our minds are very busy! Now in a very important and technical phrase Williams then defines what attentional training (mindfulness meditations or mindful awareness practices) is doing, ‘Attentional training in mindfulness programs cultivate the ability to shift modes as an essential first step to being able to hold all experience (sensory and conceptual) in a wider awareness that is itself neither merely sensory nor conceptual.’[5]

This is a shift from doing to being, from the narrative self (conceptual mode) to the experiential self (sensory-perceptual mode), followed by an ability to hold both in an open wider awareness. Far from trying to empty our mind we are learning how ‘to pay open-hearted attention to objects in the exterior and interior world as they unfold, moment by moment. Attention is paid not only to the objects themselves but to our reactions to them…’[6]

Why this is important is another question. But staying with the rumour or myth that in mindfulness meditation I am trying to empty my mind, it can also be addressed by approaching it from the angle of feelings and emotion.

Rimma Teper in an important article does address this question directly, ‘A common misconception about mindfulness, and meditation in general, is that it involves emptying the mind of thoughts and emotions.’[7] Mindfulness benefits executive function and emotion regulation and she asks, ‘Does mindfulness foster better executive control and emotion regulation because it eliminates emotional responding? We think not. Instead, we suggest that these effects accrue because mindfulness promotes an openness and sensitivity to subtle changes in affective states, which are essential in signalling the need for control and energizing its execution.’[8] In mindfulness your mind doesn’t work against your embodied mindful brain, but with it!

Mark Williams makes a similar point, ‘Mindfulness is not about “not feeling” or becoming detached from affect.’[9] What mindfulness enables is to see ‘something as it is, without further elaboration: for example, seeing thoughts as mental events, or seeing physical sensations as physical sensations…’[10]

So are we trying to empty our minds in mindfulness meditation? No, we are not! It may be that in switching to awareness, our minds suddenly may feel more spacious, but we are not emptying our minds – we are looking clearly at what our minds are processing. Mindfulness is seeing clearly and feeling clearly. It is an embodied, relational awareness that faces reality, not avoiding  it.

[1] Ruby Wax, Sane New World (London: Hodder & Stoughton, 2013), 136.

[2] Daniel J. Siegel, The Mindful Brain New York: W.W. Norton & Company, 2007), 5.

[3] J. Mark G. Williams, “Mindfulness and Psychological Process,” Emotion 10, no.1 (2010): 2, accessed April 4 2015, http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/a0018360.

[4] Williams,2.

[5] Williams, 2.

[6] Williams, 2.

[7] Rimmer Teper, Zindel V. Segal, and Michael Inzlicht, “ Inside the Mindul Mind: How Mindfulness Enhances Emotion Regulation Through Improvements in Executive Control,” Current Directions in Psychological Science XX, no. X (2013): 1, accessed April 5 2015,  http://dx.doi.org/10.1177/0963721413495869.

[8] Teper, 1.

[9] Williams, 4.

[10] Williams, 4.

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Mindful Church Cafe Costa/Stanmore After hours 6.30 p.m. Wednesday April 15 – #mindfulness at work

Mindfulness at Work

Mindful Church Café

What is ‘Mindfulness’?

  • Mindfulness is our universal human capacity for awareness and attention, and interest in mindfulness is growing exponentially.
  • It is being introduced into health, education, work and many other areas including parenting and relationships, although its roots are spiritual, with all the great faith traditions having some version of mindfulness.
  • Mindfulness can be enhanced through meditative and other practices, both secular and spiritual.

Mindfulness at Work

Mindfulness at Work is a one-off Mindful Church Cafe at Costa/Stanmore After Hours from 6.30 p.m. to 8 p.m. Wednesday 15th April 2015.

Venue: Costa Coffee Stanmore (24-26 Church Road, Stanmore, HA7 4AW)

Time: 18:30 -20:00

It is being run by Shaun Lambert who is a trained counsellor and psychotherapist, as well as being Senior Minister of Stanmore Baptist Church. He is in great demand as a speaker, teacher and lecturer in the area of mindfulness. He also worked in the world of banking for 10 years, and has retained an interest in how work can become a healthy environment, and how we can relate to work healthily and mindfully.

Have you lost your Go sign?

Have you lost your Go sign?

If you want to find out more or sign up for the course, please contact Shaun via this website.

#mindfulness is the slow miracle of greening inside us that spills over into the world

I am often asked ‘what is mindfulness?’ Some people like scientific explanations (our universal capacity for awareness and attention), other people prefer more poetic ones.

Some ideas stay with you. One such idea for me is the greening power of God (viriditas), that Hildegard of Bingen (1098-1179) put forward in her works. Now when such an idea takes root you can see it in different ways, take it in directions that perhaps that the original author didn’t intend. It’s a phrase that describes mindfulness for me, in terms of what it can do.

What is greening for me? I believe it is something I have experienced in mindfulness. I see that mindfulness practices enable mindfulness as a trait to take root in us. In this way mindfulness is a slow miracle, where we begin to green inside, we experience a new freshness, a new release of creativity, a new wholeness, a new relationship with our senses, a new relationship with our own self, with others, with creation, with God.

I have experienced this through both mindfulness for health that you find in secular psychology, as well as the Christian distinctive of mindfulness of God. After all the Gospel is an embodied Gospel.

In this sense, mindfulness is the slow miracle of greening within us, where we begin to become what Irenaeus called ‘The Glory of God – a human being fully alive.’ When we practice both mindfulness for health and mindfulness of God I think we can become fully alive.an entanglement of otters 2 001

You can get a free trial plus access to archives of @Christianitymag

You can get a free trial and access to the archives of @Christianitymag, including April’s edition and the article ‘The Lost Gospel of Mindfulness’ which interviews me and others.

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Relating & Parenting #Mindfully, Mindful Church Cafe at Costa Stanmore After Hours from 25th Feb

Relating & Parenting Mindfully

Mindful Church Café

What is ‘Mindfulness’?

  • Mindfulness is our universal human capacity for awareness and attention, and interest in mindfulness is growing exponentially.
  • It is being introduced into health, education, work and many other areas including parenting and relationships, although its roots are spiritual, with all the great faith traditions having some version of mindfulness.
  • Mindfulness can be enhanced through meditative and other practices, both secular and spiritual.

Relating & Parenting Mindfully

Mindful Church Café is a five week introduction to  relating & parenting mindfully, psychologically & spiritually.

Venue: Costa Coffee Stanmore (24-26 Church Road, Stanmore, HA7 4AW)

Time: 18:30 -20:00

Date: Starts February 25th(Session 1)

It is being run by Shaun Lambert who is a trained counsellor and psychotherapist, as well as being Senior Minister of Stanmore Baptist Church. He is in great demand as a speaker, teacher and lecturer in the area of mindfulness.

If you want to find out more or sign up for the course, please contact Shaun via this website.

Session 1: How Stress damages our relationships

Wednesday 25th February 2015

6.30 p.m. to 8.00 p.m.

 

Session 2: How to relate well in a hectic world

Wednesday 4th March 2015

6.30 p.m. to 8.00 p.m.

Session 3: Transforming our relationships

Wednesday 11th March 2015

6.30 p.m. to 8.00 p.m.

Session 4: Mindful parenting in our over-stimulated world

Wednesday 18th March 2015

6.30 p.m. to 8.15 p.m.

Session 5: Mindful parenting in our over-scheduled world

Wednesday 25th March 2015

6.30 p.m. to 8.15 p.m.

The bell that rings out silence – Worth Abbey Church #mindful

Worth Abbey

Worth Abbey Church hangs like a bell in the sky, ringing out…silence. This sense of being in a bell that is all to do with silence increases when you sit inside – even more you get a sense of a giant bell hovering above you.

Back in 2006 a phrase of 5th century Bishop, Diadochus of Photike, pioneer of the Jesus Prayer, also rang me like a bell. The energy of that phrase has stayed with me ever since, motivating and directing me. He said, ‘Let us keep our eyes always fixed on the depths of our heart with an unceasing mindfulness of God.’[1]

Within the vast  bell-like space of Worth I have been inspired to cultivate that mindfulness of God. The space and the silence invite you to indwell such mindfulness in your heart.

I have just led a retreat at Worth over the weekend on watchfulness and mindfulness of God. The experience did something which one translation from the Prologue of the Rule of St Benedict calls running ‘with hearts enlarged.’ The experience made my heart bigger. It was not just the space, the silence, the rhythm of prayer – it was the people. Those who were on retreat and the monks who offered us hospitality.

Now as I am home and I believe for weeks afterwards, if previous experience is to go by, that bell church that rings out silence will still ring in my life. I will still hear the echoes of the silence drifting to me on the wind.

[1] Quoted in Olivier Clement, The Roots of Christian Mysticism (London: New City, 2002) p.204.

Paul Hammond of UCB’s interview with me – finding grace in the ordinary mindfully

This is Paul Hammond’s interview with me via UCB National Christian Radio – finding grace in the ordinary mindfully.

You can find out more about UCB via their website: http://www.ucb.co.uk/listen.html

Mindfulness of God and Personal Transformation retreat via @PenhurstRetreat

I am leading a retreat at Penhurst Retreat Centre on Mindfulness of God and Personal Transformation on 12-14 June 2015.
Here are the details below and a link to the retreat centre’s website:

The retreat will be exploring mindfulness of God and mindfulness of health, with the aim of personal transformation. Anyone interested in developing their awareness and attention would benefit from this retreat. There will be silence built into the retreat as this is an important part of the spiritual practice of mindfulness. You will be introduced to the historic spiritual practices of Lectio Divina and the Jesus Prayer, as well as secular mindful awareness practices. We will be looking at mindfulness within Mark’s Gospel, the monastic tradition and psychology. The retreat will be interactive and dialogic with experiential elements.

http://www.penhurst-retreat-centre.org.uk/programme.php?viewretreat=233

hearing the song

hearing the song